"I do not ignore eternal relationship truths!"

Relationships are not what they once were. In some ways relationships have improved from the old days. People have learned to communicate better in recent years, there is less manipulation and control in relationships nowadays, and people are no longer terrified to let go of nonproductive arrangements.

But in the rush to modernize relationships, time-honored values have sometimes been flushed down the drain, babies thrown out with the bathwater so to speak, leading to more relationship problems than necessary.

A good relationships course would have its students asking:

"What are the natural inbred values which, if ignored in relationships, render the relationship unnatural and therefore ultimately pain-producing?"

This course does not attempt to tell us what these values are, but rather gently reminds us there are such values and invites us to discover them for ourselves.

Maybe women have some natural genetically influenced traits which cannot be ignored in relationships. Maybe for relationships to work best men cannot be who they are not designed to be. Maybe there are certain relationship truths which our ancestors always knew instinctively and which cannot be thrown out even though we have new relationship technology.

So if we want happy, fulfilling relationships, we need to ask these kinds of questions and seek answers inside ourselves where the answers to all questions dwell. We need to ask sincerely to be shown what are the natural and inherent truths of relationships which can only be denied at risk.

If we like spiritual language we can call our asking "prayer" or "meditation."

If we think of ourselves as more scientifically inclined we can call ourselves "dedicated investigators." Even scientists admit that answers to great questions are more often than not heard inside themselves with inner hearing rather than figured out by intellectual means. Many years ago the head of the Physics Department at a famous university announced a tremendous breakthrough in the understanding of subatomic physics. The announced breakthrough did not come from his team of scientists who had worked many years with no results. The breakthrough was given to him by a young man whose habit it was to sit on the roof of his house, smoke marijuana, and converse with "visitors from outer space."

Some would say it's a sad state of affairs when visitors from outer space have to feed us our scientific breakthroughs. Others would say it's been that way all along. If there were such a thing as visitors from outer space, they themselves would probably say, "Who do you think is writing this relationships course?"

The truth is perhaps closer to home. Maybe inner space is outer space and the inspirations that have always been given to scientists, inventors, writers and artists have come from within. Perhaps "visitors from outer space" are visiting flashes of enlightenment from inner space.

At any rate, if we want wonderful relationships we need to seek relationship answers we may never previously have looked deep enough inside ourselves to see. We need to be alert, to watch, to listen inside ... and to pay attention to answers rising from within.

It is said that all the king's horses and all the king's men couldn't put Humpty together again. It is very helpful to imagine Humpty is our relationships and the king's power is modern relationship science, valuable but not in itself enough to accomplish our goal. On the other hand, those who have a habit of looking deep inside ourselves can be heard proclaiming almost every day:

"What a joy to discover truth for myself and live by it! What an incredible joy!"

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"Everything is just exactly as it should be!"

It's one thing to see everything going wrong in our world.

It's another thing to grasp that everything is working together for a perfect outcome in every situation everywhere.

Which of these ways I choose to see things is going to largely determine my emotional state, true or false?

If I see things in a positive light, I'm going to feel wonderful. If I see things from a negative point of view, I'm going to be dragged down by anger, fear, or whatever other emotion I'm generating for myself that feels like hell.

Certainly heaven is here and now ... or hell is here and now ... depending on how I'm viewing things.

Therefore what I really want to do is always see things in a positive light so I feel great and my good vibrations affect everyone around me in a positive way.

But how do I see things in a positive light always, no matter what?

I do this by re-training my mind to focus away from negative viewpoints. I train myself to know that everything is just exactly as it should be.

This takes some explanation.

What if all I could see was the very little tip of the iceberg while the big giant foundation of the iceberg was not visible to me? So let's say I could see maybe 5% of what was really going on while 95% of what was really going on is not something I can see or make a judgment about.

Now there are two possibilities. Either all these 95% hidden inter meshing dynamics of the universe are working together for the highest good and everything is just exactly the way it should be, or ... the universe follows no rhyme or reason.

The universe is orderly or not, can be trusted or not.

Science and religion both tell us there are natural laws, universal laws, at work which can be trusted. If that's true then everything is just exactly as it should be.

One advantage of knowing that everything is just exactly as it should be is that I can relax and enjoy life. Sure there are going to be pains if I or others temporarily step "off course". Since pain is one of the universe's course-correction devices, even pain can be seen as part of the universe working together for every one's highest good.

A second advantage of knowing that everything is just exactly as it should be is that others around me don't have to be manipulated or resisted in any way. They are free ... and that makes for marvelous relationships.

Understanding there is a broader viewpoint, I now dedicate myself to retraining my mind away from seeing negatively.

To start each day on the right note, as I awaken I say to myself slowly and meaningfully several times over:

"Everything is just exactly as it should be. Today I trust great good is being created!"

During the day I take a mini-break each hour to close my eyes, take a few deep relaxing breaths, and again say to myself a few times:

"Everything is just exactly as it should be. It's all working for greater good than I can see."

Finally, at the end of the day I ask my mind to give me memories of any negative emotions which arose during the day and the situations involved. While each such memory is in mind I again say aloud a few times, speaking directly to the memory:

"Everything is just exactly as it should be. I'd be in joyous awe if I could see it all!"

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