"I feel betrayed!"

If you have ever felt betrayed, you know it is a killing feeling. It is a feeling that kills your joy, murders your peace, and snuffs out your love. If you let the ego grab you in the moment of such a feeling, you might even feel a desire to seek "justice," or maybe even an impulse to "enjoy" vengeance. (As you may know, the ego, which ancients called "the devil" or "Satan," has as its ultimate goal your suffering and death.)

What you may not understand in the heat of the moment is that the ego had already grabbed you when you perceived betrayal. Betrayal is in the eyes of the beholder, it doesn't exist in reality.

To understand that nobody ever betrays you it is necessary to know that God does not betray. The illusion of betrayal can only arise when we see with ego eyes, not seeing what is really going on beneath the surface appearances, which requires an entirely different way of seeing.

In his modern revelation, A COURSE IN MIRACLES, Jesus Christ corrects many of the incorrect ego-interpretations made by his disciples. Jesus explains that he does not see betrayal:

You are free to perceive yourselves as persecuted if you choose. But you might remember when you DO choose to react that way, that I WAS persecuted as the world judges, and did NOT share this evaluation for myself. I elected, both for your sake AND mine, to demonstrate that the most outrageous assault, as judged by the ego, did not matter. As the world judges these things, but NOT as God knows them, I was betrayed, abandoned, beaten, torn, and finally killed.

Regarding his disciples' interpretation of the actions of Judas:

Nor could they have described my reactions to Judas Iscariot as they did, if they had really understood ME. They could not have believed that I could have said, “Betrayest thou the Son of Man with a kiss?” unless I BELIEVED in betrayal. The whole message of the crucifixion was simply that I did NOT.

In plain simple everyday language which we can all easily understand: what is really going on is not what appears to be going on ... ever! So we cannot ever logically hold onto the ego-judgment that we've been betrayed. And if we turn our attention inward and listen to God's Voice, we will never be told we've been betrayed, because God doesn't see things that way.

But then when we see seeming betrayal, what is going on beneath surface appearances? Simply this ... our higher being is creating for ourselves yet another forgiveness lesson. It is one of the many learning opportunities we are providing for ourselves over and over again until learning is complete, opportunities to accept things as they are without judgment ... which is the real meaning of forgiveness.

The ego's reaction to this is: "No! I will not accept that I created what this person did to me!"

But remember the ego's goal is your unhappiness and ultimately your destruction. Remember also that you are far, far more ... infinitely more ... than ego says you are. In ego perception you have no idea, not even an inkling, of your true creative power. Why wouldn't your higher being create the lessons you need to rise above the debilitating habits of ego judgment?

You were not betrayed. But you were certainly blessed with a wonderful opportunity.

Now ... knowing who you really are far beyond ego, and knowing what is really going on, you can always meet any temptation to feel betrayed with a laugh. Laughing joyously, you can say to yourself:

"I'm sure as heaven not going to feel betrayed!"

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"I just can't do relationships!"

Have you ever felt there were times when you were sabotaging yourself in a relationship, maybe even going so far in despairing moments as to think the above thought?

Don't feel bad. Everyone has the same experience. Because relationships are created for the purpose of difficulty.

"Explanation, please!"

Yes ... although it seems you are a separate being living in a separate body in a separate space, what happens if this idea of separateness is examined in the light of modern quantum physics' holographic universe? Oh, my gosh! Separateness disappears. In reality we are all one, and can be said to be of one essence. Ancient seers called this one essence "spirit." They taught, "you are a spiritual being." When God was asked His name in the biblical book of Genesis, the answer was not "I am (this and that)," but simply oneness: "I AM that I AM."

Yet in our earth experience if we are asked who we are, we do not answer, "I AM." Rather we answer, "I am this, and you are that." In other words, we falsely identify ourselves as separate beings. The name modern psychology has given to this false self-identification is "ego." A relationship is two or more separate beings, egos.

Our true nature as total oneness would be experienced as total love, total joy, total peace. But ego wants to maintain itself, which is to say maintain the false sense of separation. So ego cannot allow total. A lesser experience of love, joy, or peace can be allowed, but never total. Total must be sabotaged. And in its role as saboteur, the ego has a million and one tricks to draw upon each moment.

Since a relationship is two or more egos, sabotage is always either in the process of happening on the surface, or in the process of slowly being set up under the surface. Ego forbid we experience total love, total joy, or total peace!

Ancients called ego "Satan" or the "Devil." Pope Francis was correct when he recently said of Satan (ego): "He presents things as if they were good, but his intention is destruction."

Okay, so now what? How do we short-circuit ego ploys?

Simple! We give ourselves permission to experience oneness. We practice allowing what might be thought of as "joining in spirit." With everyone, we say in our mind something like: "Right now, instead of experiencing this person as separate, I will join in spirit and feel oneness." With everything, we might ask: "What if instead of perceiving this as something separate from me, I let myself join in spirit and recognize oneness."

Joining in spirit is usually easier with a fellow human being or a pet than with a rock or fire hydrant. But when oneness is experienced for moments at a time, there are moments of total peace, total love, and total joy. And like learning any skill, practice makes perfect, right? The lessons of this course are meant to be an aid in making such practice much more efficient.

One practice which really helps is constantly saying in your mind: "I love you!" It doesn't matter whether your ego thinks you love the person (or object). Just say it constantly. Thinking love thoughts opens your heart so you can join. Others will feel your heart opening, start to feel safe, begin to let down their barriers, and join with you.

Finally, it helps to retrain one's mind from using language like, "in my relationship with so and so." Instead, as often as can be remembered, substitute language like, "in my moments of oneness with so and so." The more we think oneness and imagine oneness, the more we enter into the experience of oneness where "relationship" disappears and is replaced by joy and love and peace. Logical?

As always ... have fun!

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